One observation.
I talked myself out of two jobs I was about to get. Both times I thought something in me was broken. Looking back, my gut saw what the job actually was before my head could talk me into wanting it. I was refusing things that weren't mine and calling it a flaw.

One cost.
I spent years treating that refusal as a problem. Which meant I never asked the real question: if I keep saying no to what's offered, what am I actually saying yes to? The answer, for a long time, was nothing. Because nothing alone felt safer than something that was fully mine.

One question.
Is there something you keep turning down or walking away from that you've filed under "broken"? What would change if you trusted that signal instead of overriding it?

One line worth keeping.
The gut doesn't sabotage. It just won't pretend.