Most of what you do was decided before you knew you were deciding.
Short notes about the patterns underneath your reactions. Where they came from, how they show up, and what shifts when you see them.
It took me a while to realize the drawing wasn't just about him. I'd picked up his way of disappearing. Difficult conversation coming? I'd open an article. Decision sitting on the table? I'd research one more angle. It never felt like avoidance. It felt like who I am.
from The Sloth on the Books
Hi, I'm Denis Muhr.
I started writing because I kept reacting to things I didn't understand. Then I started finding the mechanisms underneath those reactions.
mu.hr is where I share both: the pattern and what I changed because of it. Not coaching. Not self-help. Just what I noticed and what I do differently now.
Where are you stuck?
Four places people avoid looking. Pick the one that's yours.
Your time
What you're spending it on vs. what you say matters. These notes show you where the time actually goes and one question that makes the leak visible.
Read Notes →Your identity
The version of you that keeps the room comfortable isn't the version that builds anything real. These notes show you where the performance started and how to catch it mid-act.
Read Notes →Your work
The job works. The career moves. Nothing feels like yours. These notes show you why tolerable traps hold longer than bad ones and what breaks the pattern.
Read Notes →Your relationships
Most of what you feel about others has nothing to do with them. These notes show you where the reaction actually comes from and how to stop punishing yourself for someone else's behaviour.
Read Notes →The Weekly Noticing
One observation. One cost. One question. One line worth keeping.
Every Thursday. That's it.